What gifts do you bring to this life to bless your family, your friends, your community, and the world? Are you using them? Or are you waiting until you have a little more experience … or a little more education … or have perfected a talent/skill to a higher level? Are you holding yourself back until you reach a mythical place of “good enough”?
Many of us hold ourselves to impossible standards of perfection before we share our gifts with the world. How much talent or skill or ability is wasted because we hold ourselves back? How many needed actions aren’t taken, positions aren’t filled, offices aren’t run for – because we deem ourselves unworthy and don’t even try?
So many of us count ourselves out, wait for the “right” moment (that almost never comes), and spend our lives pursuing lesser goals than those we are capable of because we hold ourselves to much higher standards than those to which we hold other people (and those to which other people hold themselves). Why do we do that – and more importantly, how can we stop doing that and get out there and contribute our best efforts, indeed our best selves, to the world?
I don’t have the answers, to be honest. I’m not going to allow that to stop me from postulating and making some suggestions, however. I think part of the problem is that we are taught learned helplessness and compliance as part of our socialization. We are taught to follow authority and rely upon “experts” – and the line is often unclear, unfair, and/or prohibitive when someone can be considered an expert. So, we minimize our experience and our perceptions – our own relevance – and accept other, often less qualified, people leading the way.
Perhaps part of it is that people of conscience and consideration believe that someone else is more qualified than themselves to handle various situations, so they step aside or give up. Some people are afraid of getting in trouble if they accidentally overstep. A good number of people are shy and avoid drawing attention to themselves or tooting their own horn. We live in a culture where we are constantly told that we are not good enough – and that thinking we are is arrogant. Pride is bad, right?
Unfortunately, this leaves the door wide open for people who have no compunctions or fear of getting in trouble to move into positions for which they are completely unqualified, causing great damage in their wake. This is part of the reason why we have governments, legal systems, medical systems, and corporations that are led by a bunch of narcissists and sociopaths – because good people count themselves out – or let themselves be pushed out – and allow bad people to take charge. That obviously needs to change.
Now, back down to the individual level – what gifts aren’t you sharing because you didn’t think you were good enough? What chances aren’t you taking? What words aren’t you speaking? How much of your power are you giving away? How are you going to take your power back, speak your truth, and live your best life? How are you going to help to create a world where everyone is valued, respected, and treated with kindness and compassion?
For healers, please realize that your gifts are essential – and that you don’t have to be a “perfect” human being to share them. There is no such thing as a perfect person. We all have our flaws, faults, and long histories of mistakes. We all have poor judgment and ignorance at times. We learn, we grow. We all have good that we can contribute now. We don’t need to wait until we achieve some sainthood level of “goodness” before we can help other people. We can help people now! We need to help people to the best of our abilities, whatever that may be in this moment. We do have something to offer! We may learn more and continue to evolve in our skills and abilities in the future – but that doesn’t mean that we can’t start doing the necessary and needed work now!
It seems to me that this world needs more people who are willing to step up into their power and do what needs to be done. Heal, lead, create new possibilities for all of us. Stop waiting for a perfection that will never come. Stop allowing unscrupulous and unqualified people to take charge. Step up! And for heaven’s sake: VOTE! Vote for decency and democracy. Take back our country from this narcissistic wannabe autocrat and all of his enablers and sycophants! It is time to HEAL the soul of this nation. Never have we faced a more important challenge in our lifetimes. It’s time to stop playing small and to do what needs to be done – as individuals and as a country. The future is in our hands.